NO STRESS ZONE.
If you struggle with dysregulated (addictive/impulsive) behavior, you might have heard that mindfulness can help you overcome the behavior.
In fact, you have likely seen numerous articles on how mindfulness can help you with pretty much every problem you have ever had (Dysregulated behavior! Anxiety! Relationship issues! Work stress! Ingrown toenails!). You may even have been pressured to practice mindfulness by friends or colleagues.
And you may be feeling a little irritated—or just plain angry.
Nobody should be forced to practice mindfulness. But before writing it off completely, I urge you to read the following.
Note: Yes, I realize I just acknowledged that many people are tired of reading about mindfulness, but then immediately asked you to read about mindfulness. Seems sort of like saying, “Of course you’re sick and tired of eating mashed potatoes. Now here’s a second helping of mashed potatoes.”
However, if you struggle with dysregulated behavior, you have probably had times when you felt like you would try almost anything that might help overcome that behavior. Thus, I urge you to make sure you know the facts before deciding whether mindfulness is—or is not—something you would be willing to try.
What Mindfulness Is and Is Not, Part I (Subtitle: Here’s a Big Helping of Those Mashed Potatoes You Were Already Tired of Eating.)
Mindfulness is not:
Instead, mindfulness involves the ability to experience your emotions, without
For example, have you ever felt angry about a situation, and then ruminated about the situation until you felt tied up in knots inside? Perhaps you even had trouble falling asleep at night? Or focusing your attention on anything else?
Or have you ever felt so angry (or sad or anxious) that you felt you had to engage in dysregulated behavior just to get some relief from the emotions?
Or have you ever said things in anger you regretted later? Or become angry at a social media post and typed something you were embarrassed about later? (Not that anyone has had any disagreements on social media lately. Ahem.) Perhaps you ended up hurting someone you did not want to hurt, or even harming a relationship?
Contrary to popular belief, mindfulness will not keep you from feeling anger–or any other emotion. That would be scary. Emotions help us function. Anger helps us stand up for ourselves and motivates us to fight against injustice.
Instead, mindfulness, when practiced with a mental-health professional, can help anger and other emotions feel more tolerable and easier to manage so you are less likely to feel controlled by your emotions. In other words,
Note: For an explanation of the methods by which mindfulness can help you feel less controlled by emotions, check out the Psychology Today series on Mindfulness and Dysregulated Behavior: Part I, Part II, Part III, and Part IV.
Future posts will continue to discuss the common doubts about mindfulness, including: 1) why you are right to be skeptical of mindfulness as a cure-all, 2) why mindfulness is not just a cheesy relaxation technique, and 3) how to "do" mindfulness even if you think you cannot "do" mindfulness.
Until then, remember:
Source: Psychology Today.
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